It's only good to make your own choices if they're the ones we want you to make.

"It is natural to want to be accepted by peers, to be part of a group—some even join gangs because of that desire to belong, but they lose their freedom, and some lose their lives. One of the hardest things for you to recognize is how truly strong you already are and how others silently respect you." -Richard G. Scott, Quorum of the 12 Apostles